Do I belong?

Sometimes I feel out of place in the kink world because I'm not into hurting people, physically. (Outside of my ballbusting fantasies which are also limited)

I like being gentle and soft with my subs. They're my precious bbs and if I really like someone I don't want to see them in pain or leave obscene marks on them. I can't even remember the last time I gave a hickey😮‍💨

And because I'm so particular about how I share my body, I'm not particularly interested in being served by way of receiving oral or, in my opinion, other extremely intimate sexual acts such as pegging or even touching someone else's genitals, skin to skin.

I feel there's an assumption that, as a Domme, I'm inclined to participate in these higher levels of physical engagement. And it really does get disheartening. Do I belong in certain spaces? Will other Dominants see me as their peer? Are there submissives that seek to serve outside of these overtly sexual encounters?

Am I still participating in "kink" if I'm not flogging someone or allowing them access to my body?

I believe I know the answer, but sometimes I feel very alone in this space.